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The Burden We Bear:

Many remember back to their school days, when one small group of children closed their doors to all others wanting to offer friendship. Mistakenly thinking they were somehow better than all other classmates, they eventually pushed everyone else away. Years later after maturing and reflecting on their actions, many in this category have realized that their seclusion had cost them many things that the others enjoyed. They deeply regret the friendships that could have been made, the experiences they missed, and the happiness their actions had destroyed. They were no different than the others in their class, but had pretended to be so.

After leaving a religious cult, former cult members experience this same feeling with greater intensity. Many recruited into cults would never have considered themselves an elitist in their childhood days, yet somehow had been convinced to be so as an adult. Not only are they faced with the regrets for their separatist mentality, they struggle to understand how such a group influenced them to seclusion.

Religious cults mislead their prey into thinking they are an elite subset of a much larger faith. Using keywords and phrases such as "God's bride," "elect", "chosen few" and more, they convince cult followers that they hold "mysteries", faith, or rules that the larger group cannot see, believe, or understand. After leaving a cult and having started deprogramming, former members begin to see similarities between the adult group they joined and the immature childhood groups that refused them.

This is a heavy burden to carry. Often, former members reach out to non-cult friends or family they might have offended to apologize. Others work to spread awareness so that unsuspecting recruits do not make the same mistake. Some work to help cult members awaken. Guilt carries painful weight, but by balancing the scale with good intent, former cult members find strength to carry the burden.