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Not Allowing Questions Causing NPD

John Collins5/1/2012 2:05:00 PMOne of the more common personality disorders that is prevalent in a cult-like atmosphere is Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

In any environment where a person is taught that there is no right for them to question or speak up to leadership, repressed thoughts compress themselves like a spring being tightened for the impending recoil. These people and their therapists often work through what they consider as "being denied a voice." The parent with NPD is not interested in anything the children have to say for themselves, especially if they do not agree with the child.

A NPD parent will see the child as a two-dimensional construct with only one purpose: to reflect well on the parent. The children are not seen as independent beings with their own ambitions, longings, or dreams. NPD parents will typically teach the children of a "right way and a wrong way" to do things, not allowing for other possibilities.

Sadly, as they enter adulthood, these children typically turn into NPD parents themselves. This behavior as a parent becomes the primary cause of NPD as a child. It is said that this disorder is over 50% hereditary, because the parent actually causes the disorder in the child.

Even worse, as an adult, the person suffering NPD will treat other religious people that do not believe exactly as they do in the same manners they treat their children. They do not see others as individuals that God is dealing with, they see them as one of two types of people: Those who are "with us" and those who are "against us." They want to deny these "non-believers" their voice.

NPD adults will seldom (if ever) seek treatment. Part of the disorder gives the sufferer the feeling that they are "always right," and since they deny it, they must be correct. If your spouse has this disorder, you must consider your children and seek help for them.

Some of the signs of NPD are:

  • Reacts to criticism with anger, shame or humiliation
  • Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals
  • Exaggerates own importance
  • Exaggerates achievements and talents
  • Entertains unrealistic fantasies about success, power, beauty, intelligence or romance
  • Has unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment
  • Requires constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
  • Is easily jealous
  • Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy
  • Has obsessive self-interest
  • Pursues mainly selfish goals